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ACT as a psychotherapy for Complex Trauma: With Louise Hayes & Robyn Walser
I am delighted to share two workshops with you on therapy for complex trauma across the lifespan.
Attend live or watch the recording.
I will be leading the first workshop, and the fabulous Dr Robyn Walser will be leading the second.
Robyn is one of the world's leaders in Acceptance and Com...
Feb 27, 2026
Old Wiring, New Choices: Therapy with complex trauma
We are meant to detect stress, to respond, and to survive
Let's talk about our innate learning first.
When a monkey senses a threat, its initial reaction is to seek protection from its group. If the monkey's family comes to the rescue, it’ll go back to swinging from trees. But if it must face ...
Feb 20, 2026
The Achievement Paradox: Why Self-Doubt Increases as You Improve
Here's something nobody tells you about developing expertise: As you get better, self-doubt often gets worse, not better.This seems backwards, doesn't it? Shouldn't increased skill lead to increased confidence?
But look at the illustration —that staircase of achievement.
Each step up represents...
Jan 26, 2026
"My work will be forever changed..."
Hi there,
I want to share what can happen when you dive into your career growth and devote time to building your profession, just as we've been doing in the Therapist Adventures program.
One member said:
"This is the gentle jet fuel I've needed to power my discovery and approach towards...
Jan 20, 2026
Ready for More Than Good Enough?
There's a predictable path your clinical skills follow, whether you're developing expertise in a therapy focus, therapy model, or a focused client group. You'll move through four distinct stages: Beginner → Competent → Expert → Master*
Here's what happens at each stage:Beginner: You have basic k...
Jan 16, 2026
The One Practice That Separates Experts from Everyone Else
You've probably heard the advice: "Practice makes perfect."
Except it doesn't. Not really.
What makes the difference between an expert therapist with 20 years of experience and someone who's simply been there for twenty years?
Deliberate practice
That's not head down working, seeing client...
Jan 13, 2026
The Habit Zone vs. Discovery Zone: Why Comfortable Practice Doesn't Improve Your Skills
Let me tell you about Bishop, a competent chess player who spent thousands of hours playing speed chess. His improvement? Nearly zero.
Bishop got frustrated. He thought maybe he needed some luck, a different strategy, better opponents. But his real problem was simpler: he was stuck in what w...
Jan 08, 2026
Does an adventure into mastering your profession call you?
Can I share something that's been lighting me up all year?
In 2025, I’ve had the honour of working with the first Therapist Adventures cohort. I’ve watched them challenge themselves, examine their clinical skills through practice and feedback, and stretch their professional growth into new areas...
Jan 04, 2026
Balancing Self and Social Valued Actions (Part 3 - corrected link)
This is part three of my newsletter on using values to help us live according to what matters most.
To revisit the key steps for part 1 and 2:
Key steps Part 1 - Click here to read part one
Key steps Part 2 - Click here to read part two
Part 3 - Balancing self and social valued actions:
Liv...
Dec 23, 2025
Balancing Self and Social Valued Actions (Part 3)
This is part three of my newsletter on using values to help us live according to what matters most.
To revisit the key steps for part 1 and 2:
Key steps Part 1 - Click here to read part one
Key steps Part 2 - Click here to read part two
Part 3 Balancing self and social valued actions:
Livin...
Dec 16, 2025
Final Call: Transform How You Support Separated Families
If you work with children navigating two homes, or adults who are doing their best to co-parent through separation, this is the webinar that will change how you support families.
Bridges Not Battlefields is happening next Thursday, and this is your final chance to register.
Every day, mental he...
Dec 02, 2025
The moment when a stuck client suddenly opens up (and how to create it)
You know that feeling when you're working with a client who's stuck?
They're giving you one-word answers. Or they're lost in rumination. Or they keep saying "I don't know" when you ask about what matters to them.
I've been there countless times in my own practice. And I've spent years developing...
Nov 23, 2025